So then it hit me!
We have been trying so hard to keep a structured pub night going these past few months it’s been great. But then it hit me we are having better conversations on the off nights then on the on. Our conversations during old Chicago visits and kips and the weddings are more real than the ones we try to stay on track with on scheduled nights. I have had the opportunity to sit down and talk with various people at various stages of there lives and I feel good about just gaining there trust and being there friend. However as time has gone on the topics get a little deeper and they have been bring up Christianity.
Granted little things like you better pray hard that this thing doesn’t blow up in your face is more of a common threat phrase. Yet I still feel like there is a reason people make these types of comments. Maybe it’s just human nature to think about God in time of stress. However my theory is that people see something you as you interact with them and they start to feel more willing to share there lives with you. A casual conversation about music such as the blog before this can lead to many open doors.
I was talking to my PM the other day and I had showdown playing on my computer. He asked if I liked listening to that kind of music. I said of course but it’s not what you think. Then I told him it was Christian and he nodded his head. I said I would rather listen to this type of music if it had a more positive message other than kill your mother. He kinda agreed and then brought the subject to nine inch nails. Ok thats cool they have a lot of good songs that are not all bad. Regardless this got me in the door. Then he said I should meet his wife because she was a big Christian music fan. She has gone to sonshine several times and loves the scene now my foot is way in the door. More to follow as I feel him out to see where they both stand spiritually and why!
The more I experiment the more I come up with conversation starters and trust gainers.
Nathan
